Understanding Yourself


There are a few reasons why you might want to know your own nature:

Happiness. You will be happier when you can express who you are. Expressing your desires, moreover, will make it more likely that you get what you want.

Less inner conflict.  When your outside actions are in accordance with your inside feelings and values, you will experience less inner conflict.

Better decision-making.  When you know yourself, you are able to make better choices about everything, from small decisions like which sweater you’ll buy to big decisions like which partner you’ll spend your life with. You’ll have guidelines you can apply to solve life’s varied problems.

Self-control. When you know yourself, you understand what motivates you to resist bad habits and develop good ones. You’ll have the insight to know which values and goals activate your willpower.

Resistance to social pressure.  When you are grounded in your values and preferences, you are less likely to say “yes” when you want to say “no.”

Tolerance and understanding of others. Your awareness of your own foibles and struggles can help you empathize with others.

Vitality and pleasure:  Being who you truly are helps you feel more alive and makes your experience of life richer, larger, and more exciting.


 A huge part of holistic health care is your partnership with your providers and caregivers. You must work with them by communicating what you are experiencing and what you need. Understanding who you are, what you believe, what you can/can’t do, and what you need is the first step to communicating these things effectively. The diagram above helps you to determine what type of person you are.

Dominant Personalities:

·        Fast-paced

·        Direct

·        Results-oriented

·        Thrive on challenge

·        Problem-solving

These individuals typically enjoy both one-on-one and group environments, if they feel they are sufficiently challenged or have the chance to quantify their results. Competitions or tracking metrics like number of reps performed, time for distance or amount of weight lifted may challenge these individuals to work harder.

Inspiring Personalities:

·        Outgoing

·        Interactive

·        People-oriented

·        Decision-makers

·        Connect easily with others

·        Having fun

These outgoing individuals typically prefer the group environment where they can work with others; they may also be your front-row participants who thrive on the social aspect of exercise. The process of working with others may be preferable than a specific performance outcome.

Cautious Personalities:

·        Reserved

·        Task-oriented

·        Less emotion

·        Prefer data and facts

·        Purposeful

·        Prefer own space

·        Follow the rules

These individuals typically prefer exercising on their own as opposed to being in a group. May not be motivated by challenges, but more interested in tracking their workouts through data like heart rate, amount of weight lifted or the time to complete an assigned workout.

Supportive Personalities:

·        Reserved

·        People-oriented

·        Fast-movers

·        Decision-makers

·        Desire to be appreciated

·        Promote collaboration

Because they are considered reserved, these individuals may prefer small-group training programs that focus on everyone working toward the same (or similar) goal(s). Taking the opportunity to provide these individuals with specific feedback and appreciation can go a long way to establishing a long-term relationship with this client.

Get to Know Yourself with an Objective Assessment.

The first thing you can do to gain a greater understanding of yourself is to get some objective assessment. Of course, you can ask people you know, but their experience of you will lead them to the same biases that you have. Getting some objective opinions will give you a more accurate picture and lead you to consider some things you might not even have thought of. There are several established tests that you can take to learn about the different aspects of yourself.


The purpose of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®) personality inventory is to make the theory of psychological types described by C. G. Jung understandable and useful in people’s lives. The essence of the theory is that much seemingly random variation in the behavior is actually quite orderly and consistent, being due to basic differences in the ways individuals prefer to use their perception and judgment.


Are you outgoing or introverted? Do you have a high traditional IQ or emotional IQ? Do you have what it takes to be an entrepreneur? Find the answers to these questions and more with Psychology Today.


Sometimes you find yourself doing things and you have no idea why. Why did you yell at your son? Why did you choose to stay with your current job instead of taking a new one? Why did you argue with your parents about something you don’t even care about? Our subconscious controls a huge amount of our behavior and thus the reasoning behind many of our decisions in life can be shrouded in mystery. However, if you know how to look, you can gain a greater understanding of yourself: why you make the decisions that you do, what makes you happy, and how you might change for the better.


When you don’t take the time to understand yourself and who you are, your sense of individuality weakens. You become easily influenced and pushed into a lifestyle that doesn’t represent who you are. The good news is you can gradually transition into the life you want by periodically “checking in” with yourself – the better you understand yourself, the easier it will be to steer your life in the right direction. Here are 25 questions to get you started. Each answer will shed light on your individuality and unlock your potential.